Being a new mum feels difficult one minute and rewarding the next. Sometimes I feel like my judgment is clouded by ridiculously high expectations of myself.
We are all committed to being the best mum ever, however, I thought I'd share my list of motherhood commandments that I refer to in order to get myself back on track.
1. Thou shalt not compare thyself to other mums.
It's such an easy thing to do when self-doubt kicks in. Don't be hard on yourself. Another mum may look like supermum to you but things aren't always as they seem.
We all struggle from time to time and we all have strengths and weaknesses. Never judge another mum's decisions either; we all have our valid reason for doing things.
2. Thou shalt look after thyself.
Too often we ignore your own needs as all of our attention is focused on our little ones. We do however need to be mentally and physically fit in order take care of them. Exercise, eat well and sleep as much as possible. When life gets a little overwhelming, seek help, lighten the load, and don't burn yourself out.
3. Thou shalt trust one's own judgement.
Everyone has an opinion on parenting and they will offer their well-meaning advice. Take others' opinions on board by all means, but remember; all babies are different. Your baby is different.
Trust your instinct. As you get to know your little one, it will be right the majority of the time and you'll find yourself searching the internet for validation less.
4. Thou shalt make time for friends.
It's natural to be consumed by all things baby and it can feel as though your child-free friends have changed, but we change too. I could talk about my baby for hours... but do my friends want to listen for that long?
Remember that you are a person in your own right, so take a break, try to keep baby talk to a minimum (difficult, I know) and have a good gossip.
Not all friendships stand the test of time when you become a mum but it just means there's room to make new ones when the time is right.
5. Thou shalt keep thy dreams in sight.
Over the years as your child gets older, you will have a little more free time on your hands. It's good to keep your hobbies alive and remember where your passions lie. Itís never too late to follow your ambitions.
I want hours upon hours of delicious sleep followed by hot cups of tea, reading my book and nothingness. But I'll have to get up now to comfort, feed, clean, dress, entertain, love, laugh, play, and repeat.