"No, because I will do what feels right in my heart."
It's extremely hard to navigate this journey of being a first-time mum. You will hear all number of well-meaning advice; some may sound reasonable, while others may sound absurd. The key is to follow your oh so beautiful, natural maternal instincts.
So to the midwife who came to visit in the first few weeks after the birth of our new baby daughter, who told me I better not continue to nurse her to sleep or else she will expect it every time. I would like to say, no, but thank you.
No, because I will do what feels right in my heart. I will hold my darling daughter in my arms and nurse her, cuddle her, play with her for whatever she needs, for as long as she needs it. If being nursed to sleep, day or night is what she requires to feel happy, safe and loved then so be it.
We know that a child who feels loved and secure will grow into an emotionally stable, independent adult. There is plenty of research on this, but we know it in our mother's instincts already.
But thank you, for taking the time to give me your well-meaning advice. I know it comes from a place of care, from being thoughtful and what you believe is best.
But for now, all I want to do is to breathe in the sweet scent of my beautiful baby and know deep in my heart, she feels completely secure.
When my daughter started daycare, I spent a lot of time trying to find the right fit for her and our family. I did a lot of research and asked a lot of questions. Over and over again though, the answer to my question would come back the same, "she'll be fine."
I want hours upon hours of delicious sleep followed by hot cups of tea, reading my book and nothingness. But I'll have to get up now to comfort, feed, clean, dress, entertain, love, laugh, play, and repeat.