"No, because I will do what feels right in my heart."
It's extremely hard to navigate this journey of being a first-time mum. You will hear all number of well-meaning advice; some may sound reasonable, while others may sound absurd. The key is to follow your oh so beautiful, natural maternal instincts.
So to the midwife who came to visit in the first few weeks after the birth of our new baby daughter, who told me I better not continue to nurse her to sleep or else she will expect it every time. I would like to say, no, but thank you.
No, because I will do what feels right in my heart. I will hold my darling daughter in my arms and nurse her, cuddle her, play with her for whatever she needs, for as long as she needs it. If being nursed to sleep, day or night is what she requires to feel happy, safe and loved then so be it.
We know that a child who feels loved and secure will grow into an emotionally stable, independent adult. There is plenty of research on this, but we know it in our mother's instincts already.
But thank you, for taking the time to give me your well-meaning advice. I know it comes from a place of care, from being thoughtful and what you believe is best.
But for now, all I want to do is to breathe in the sweet scent of my beautiful baby and know deep in my heart, she feels completely secure.
My son was a very fussy baby. He only settled when he was being held, he didnít nap for very long during the day, he was very uncomfortable after a feed (more so in the evening) and he never slept through the night.