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Single Motherhood: Did I Make The Right Choice
by Snglmummylife (follow)
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Could I be both mum and dad to this tiny human who only had me to rely on?
When I found out I was pregnant, there was no doubt in my mind that I would be having my baby.
Abortion never entered my mind and giving up my baby for adoption wasn't an option. I knew almost immediately that I would be bringing up my child alone and the conversations that I had with his father in the months that followed confirmed this.
His father and I were never in a relationship, but we had been in each other’s lives through one way or another for about 6 years. His personal circumstance where complicated and finding out I was pregnant was not the joyous news that it had been for me.
My pregnancy was filled with excitement and anticipation. I made the choice to move from London back to my hometown of Glasgow when I began my maternity leave, to be close to family and friends for support. The financial implications of bringing up a baby alone became apparent very quickly as I started looking at everything I needed, but I bought as much as I could second-hand and didn’t splurge on any items that I couldn’t justify we needed.
I will never forget the moment my son was born and placed onto my chest. That feeling of overwhelming love and the promise I made that I would be enough for him and that I wouldn’t allow the fact that he didn’t have a father to define him.
As the early emotions crept in I remember questioning if I’d done the right thing. Was I selfish to bring a baby into this world knowing that his father did not want to be a part of his life? Could I be both mum and dad to this tiny human who only had me to rely on? Would I be able to offer him the financial stability? I began to doubt myself and my decision to have this baby, but he was here and he needed me so I reached out for support and realised that I could do this.
I still to this day question if I did the right thing for me and for my son, but I’m lucky to have amazing people around me to lift me up on the days that I need it and to remind me that my son is happy, healthy, content and wants for nothing.
I know as he gets older that it will get harder as the questions surrounding his father begin, as he notices that he doesn’t have a daddy like most of his friends, but I will have to deal with that when it happens.
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When I found out I was pregnant, there was no doubt in my mind that I would be having my baby.
Abortion never entered my mind and giving up my baby for adoption wasn't an option. I knew almost immediately that I would be bringing up my child alone and the conversations that I had with his father in the months that followed confirmed this.
His father and I were never in a relationship, but we had been in each other’s lives through one way or another for about 6 years. His personal circumstance where complicated and finding out I was pregnant was not the joyous news that it had been for me.
I will never forget the moment my son was born and placed onto my chest. That feeling of overwhelming love and the promise I made that I would be enough for him and that I wouldn’t allow the fact that he didn’t have a father to define him.
As the early emotions crept in I remember questioning if I’d done the right thing. Was I selfish to bring a baby into this world knowing that his father did not want to be a part of his life? Could I be both mum and dad to this tiny human who only had me to rely on? Would I be able to offer him the financial stability? I began to doubt myself and my decision to have this baby, but he was here and he needed me so I reached out for support and realised that I could do this.
I know as he gets older that it will get harder as the questions surrounding his father begin, as he notices that he doesn’t have a daddy like most of his friends, but I will have to deal with that when it happens.
Read 5 Signs You're A Good Mother
Read Your Child, Your Choice
Read Motherhood: Expectation Vs Reality
Read 6 Things Nobody Tells You About Life With a Newborn
Read Thoughts On 'When' I Became A Mum
#Your Stories
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