5 tips on how to transition from one child to more.
When I was pregnant with my second child, I was constantly told how hard the transition from one child to two was. To be honest, it got to the point where I was anxious about whether we had made the right decision. Life was so sweet as a family of three, so why did I want to ruin that?!
Fast forward five months and I can't imagine life as anything BUT a family of four! For anyone out there who is about to make the transition, I want to share some tips I used to make our own transition a positive one.
Whilst there are most certainly still challenges in our household, on a whole the transition has been amazing and the fear I once had is long forgotten.
1. Snack station
I have a basket on the lowest shelf of my pantry stocked with my eldest's favourite healthy snacks. This way, if I am busy feeding, she can help herself to some food without the whinging.
However, she does have to ask for something from the basket first, otherwise she would graze all day. I have also moved the fruit bowl to where she can reach it and always have her water bottle available.
2. Activity station
As well as the snack station, I set up a few activities ready for my eldest so that she has something to entertain her while I put my youngest to sleep. Colouring books, play dough and stickers worked well for us.
3. Be flexible
You can't spend all day trying to put the baby to sleep like you could with your eldest. If we are having a tough day, I set a time limit on trying to put her down. If it went past that time, I would give up and go and do an activity with the eldest before trying again.
Cut yourself some slack on your usual rules if you need to. Screen time in our household is usually very limited, but I find myself relying on this during those tough moments to give myself a break. We can always reset boundaries later.
4. Meal plan
I loosely meal plan each week's dinners, which helps during the crazy witching hour. I have found that by prepping dinner in the morning and just having to throw it in the oven at night works best for us. I also try to cook big meals so we have leftovers for another night during the week.
5. One-on-one time with your eldest child
I found that I yearned for the special time we used to have and so did she. By planning some time together, this has helped us both cope with the transition. We seem to have less tantrums and issues when I have spent extra time with my eldest and this helps the day run smoothly.
These changes have helped us adopt a new routine that is now working well for us. I'm under no illusion that things are going to be easy, but at least we are off to a good start.
So if you are about to welcome a new baby into the world, take a deep breath and ignore those negative comments being thrown at you because you've got this Mumma!
What tips do you have for transitioning from one child to two or more?
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